It seems that something is missing and that the feeling of emptiness is not complete. The feeling that we will always feel lonely, that certain things will never allow us to achieve personal fulfillment or, until, we will never be heard or understood. It is not easy to define the emotional deprivation of affective deprivation and perhaps the most common psychotherapeutic needs.

We take away, kidnap or exile ourselves from the rest of our experience. Perhaps because of the feelings of pain and discomfort that arise in us, or the possible feelings of shame that may accompany the experience.

In order for us to see and care for emotional deprivation, we need recognition, which is not easy.

The void of needing seeks solutions by looking outside ourselves. An arduous task, to satisfy the need for attachment and to feel valued by someone, while at the same time it is necessary to deal with internal critical thoughts and feelings related to this lack.

When this internal need cannot be heeded, there is a need to seek to eliminate this necessity externally, with the partner, with friends, with children, with food, with alcohol, or others, witch will act as protectors.

When you look inside and pay attention to the inner affective lack and help relieve it of our burdens, we no longer have to wait for external help to fill that void. The magic that the other can read our emotions and make it meet our needs is no longer the focus. It is very gratifying when we can face the needs without them running away.

If you are in a situation of emotional frailty and would like to know how to deal with the situation, feel free to contact me and talk about it.